If Your Body was a Little Baby…

…or a little child, what would you say to her or him? Would you talk to a baby the same way that you talk to your body? For example, would you hold an infant in your arms and say: “My God, look at those fat, little legs, you little porker. Get a grip and lose some weight!”

My guess is no. Most of us would not address a little child in such a critical, demeaning way, but we do it to our bodies all of the time. Many people tell their bodies hurtful, damaging, and frankly, beyond-cruel things on a daily basis. Our bodies cannot possibly be expected to function properly or live healthily with this kind of treatment and nor do children. Why do we talk to the body any differently than we talk to other people? What is it about our bodies that just drives us so insane that we abuse them and demean them like we do? Why is most of our rancor, disdain, and fury reserved for our own bodies? And, why don’t more people even question this?

So, for the next, oh, REST OF YOUR LIFE, imagine that your body is a precious, sweet, impressionable, and tender little baby that relies on you for everything; it is your job to help this little one grow, express, and thrive despite the rigors of life. It is your job to see this baby into her future. How will you help her grow and trust? What can you do to ease your little one’s anxiety? Are there things that he needs and isn’t getting? Is he well fed and clothed and rested? If not, why and better yet, what can you do about it?

Our bodies listen to every single word we speak and think; they hear us and respond to our emanations instantly. The body is electrical. The mind, consciousness is electrical. Our bodies sponge up every thought, every word and then carry out our demands. We know about the mind/body connection, yet so few of us every really apply these concepts to our self image, our relationship with the body, or our behaviors. It’s time, my friends.

Treat your body with the same love, understanding, and tenderness that you would for a little baby and watch what happens. I bet things get better. I bet you will feel better. I bet that your body will be sitting there wagging his or her tail like a Labrador puppy waiting to play. And, I bet your life will improve tremendously.

Pick up the baby, love her, hold her, whisper to her, tell her how vital she is to your expansion as a human being and feel how much you appreciate the sacrifice she has made to be here with you. Love that body-baby and wait for the love to come back to you. It will.

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28 thoughts on “If Your Body was a Little Baby…

    1. BigLizzy Post author

      Wait! How did I miss your post, mommy?! Lemme check my blog settings. I know that I follow you. ARG! Well, I’ll be sure to head over and read your post, my sweet friend. Have you gotten your bike yet? Hmmm???! i know exactly what you mean. If only I could take back all of the hurtful things I have said to self and others. OMG. I guess I just have to reincarnate and make up for it all. Sigh. But, now, of course, I do not act like that. I tell my sweet body so many loving things and do so daily. I send her hugs and energy; it feels so much better than criticism. I LOVE you, my Fat Bottom Girl. Yours is the BEST online name ever, by the way!

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      1. Fat Bottom Girl

        No bike yet, and because of financial constraints, it appears as though it might be even longer before I get it. 😦 It shall remain on my wish list, and I will keep working towards it!! And much love to you!!

      2. BigLizzy Post author

        Oh, honey! I’ll keep thinking good thoughts for you on this. I know it will happen for you, eventually, and when we get to ride together, the wait will be worth it. XOXO

  1. beckysaysthings

    You are unbelievably inspiring 🙂
    I used to hate my body – normal quibbles, bum too big, boobs too small, thighs too chunky, etc etc – but then someone told me I had the best bottom they’d ever seen and I looked at it in the mirror and thought ‘You know what? It’s not so bad’.
    Accepting you’re never going to be Barbie, accepting you’re never going to be a certain shape, now matter HOW much exercise or dieting you do – accepting the body you walk around in and sit on and run with and sleep with, is a huge milestone, but when you do it, it’s bloody amazing.
    Yes, I still have the occasional ‘God, I wish I had bigger boobs’ or ‘I wish my bum didn’t wobble quite so much’ moment, but, at the ripe old age of 28, I think I’ve finally accepted my body. And you know what? It’s like the sun coming out 🙂
    Thank you for such incredibly inspiring and healing posts x

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      1. BigLizzy Post author

        Marcy! Thank you so much for chiming in here, honey-bunny. I agree with you. For a long time, I had to stop looking at the fashion rags because they were tools that I used to feel bad about myself. I can now page through Vogue and feel neutral about it all, most of the time. I can appreciate the lighting and artistry and drama of the photos. I can accept that the rail-thin women are being in their process with image and adornment and body; And, amazingly, I can conjure compassion for them and for all people in the fashion industry. These people simply do not know what we know. That’s all. In most cases, they are not at a level where they can honor the body in all of its variances; it’s okay. Why would I ask them to be any different than they are? They have evolved to a place and they will continue to evolve. I’ll do the same. We’ll all do the same. I can accept it and take the artistry from the pages of those mags. It’s very satisfying to be in a place where I can look at women who weigh a good 130 pounds less than I do and still feel good about myself and my lovely body. We are just different. I am no worse or better. Love your reply here, sister. Thank you! XOXO

    1. BigLizzy Post author

      Becky-darling, You are more than welcome, sweetness. It just makes me beam with love and honor to put this energy and healing message into the world and that the right people, the people who are also beaming this message, pick up on it and come forward. You are right beside me in the good fight; it just takes my breath away. Law of Attraction works. Like energies coalesce and commingle and lead to more like energies. Acceptance of self is merely the gateway to love of self and then love of others. If we can just get to acceptance, like you say, like you have done with your own body, love is the very next step. Love is the reason that we are here; it is our divine purpose and our only job. Just love. You get it completely and for that, I thank you; you grace so many other people’s lives with goodness, light, and healing. It’s an honor to know you. XOXO

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      1. beckysaysthings

        Lizzy, I am unfathomably glad we’ve found each other!
        I’m feeling the love right now!
        It’s an honour to know you too – I’ve checked out your writing work and, as a writer myself, and someone who dreams of finishing my novel, I have massive respect for you, you awesome biker chick 😉 xxxxx

      2. BigLizzy Post author

        I feel the exact same way about you, Becky-babe. I mean it. Your writing is spectacular. I bow to your prowess on the page and in life. Sending you delicious, warm hugs, my sweetness.

  2. mariner2mother

    You have me in a puddle of tears. Yes, we would NEVER treat a little baby the way so many of us treat our bodies. Thank you for this awesome reminder!!

    You might appreciate this video of William Linville http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p06AvCwnEtA&list=PL14A889AB4ED6C0F8. You may have to watch it a few times to get used to his vocabulary- his lingo. He walked into the body of William Linville on the operating room table in the middle of a gastric bypass surgery. If you’re new to him, it takes a little while to get used to him, but I think he’s amazing. One of the things he talks about is how when his spirit moved into the physical body, the body had it’s own pile of beliefs that were negatively affecting it.

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    1. BigLizzy Post author

      Awwww, my dear Mariner-mommy! So glad this post helped you feel and connect. It is so my absolute pleasure to push these gentle little reminders into the world. I could not do it as well without my peeps, though. Honestly! You keep me going, babe. I love your huge heart, your awesome work, and how you also help other people. I am a lucky, lucky girl to know you. I can’t wait to check out that video. Thank you!! All my love and light to you, friend!

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    2. BigLizzy Post author

      Hi, my beautiful friend! I just got around to watching this video and yes, he is fascinating! What a total trip! I am transfixed by this dude. My mind is trying to figure out if he’s for real or even what that means. LOL! I love how in part one, he says, ” the body had his (meaning the previous occupier of said body’s) debris”. So interesting! Thank you so much for sharing this with me. I am certainly going to explore more of this. Love you, sissy!

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    1. BigLizzy Post author

      Rutabaga, my babe! Thank you so much for reading and commenting here, ma sista. Even now, I cringe at the things I used to say to my hard-working, eager-to-please body; it literally breaks my heart that people are so mean to themselves and that some never achieve even acceptance, let-alone love. I’m so glad that you no longer address your sweet body in a hurtful way. That gives me a reason to do a ::Happy Dance::! XOXO

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      1. Rutabaga the Mercenary Researcher

        We do not live in a culture that allows us to think nice thoughts about ourselves so we have to really work hard at it – but it’s easier to live at peace with ourselves than at war. I still slip now and again – but I try not to call myself ‘fat’ or refer to myself as such – it makes a difference. Thank you for continuing to remind us that we can and should love ourselves.

      2. BigLizzy Post author

        Rutabaga, You are so right about the culture hugely influencing how we think and feel about our bodies. In other cultures, body image is not such an unhealthy topic and obsession as it is here in the western world. The thing is the culture can only do so much to us. At some point, we have to stop and ask if we like how we are feeling. It’s that simple. Do I like the way that I feel? Do I want change? Is there something that I can do differently to feel better? We are not taught how to introspect but we are capable of introspection and we can learn. I love that you are getting clear with yourself and your journey. I really do. And, you nailed it: peace feels so much better than war. I love you, sis. Gooood job!

  3. makewayforlindaj

    Lizzy –

    Another fabulous post. I could read you all day long. I’ve been passing along a couple of your posts to my friends on Facebook – just trying to spread the love around 🙂

    Since reading your guest post about falling madly in love with yourself, I’ve made some great strides in banning negative self-talk from my inner dialogue. As a result of that mental makeover, I wrote this post:

    http://getwritedowntoit.wordpress.com/2013/08/06/my-magic-shoes/

    It’s amazing, once I got my head right, my body wanted to follow suit. The difference this time is that my workouts aren’t about wanting the numbers on the scale to change. They’re about wanting to be healthy and make my body stronger. And I end every workout with a silent thank you to my body for allowing me to do what I wanted to do.

    Thanks again for doing what you do – you’re AWESOME!!

    XO
    Linda

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    1. BigLizzy Post author

      Linda!! Loved your blog post so much, honey. I just left you a love note over there and I am now following you because, well, you are the bomb-diggity. Your comments here are so sweet. Right back at you, friend. I so love that you thank your body for what she lets you do. That made me tear up with gratitude and appreciation. I JUST LOVE that you get it and choose to do this with such an open heart and mind. That makes all the difference on this earth-plane. You, by choosing love and understanding, are helping all of humanity to rise. It’s true. When we choose love and light, we help all of human-kind. Rock on with yer bad-ass self, honey. I look forward to many more awesome posts and holding each other’s hearts with glee and tenderness. Your sister in the light, Lizzy

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      1. makewayforlindaj

        Lizzy –

        Thanks for following my blog – means a lot to me to have you on board.

        I do believe that what we put out there in the universe causes a ripple effect for those around us – you’re living proof of that. There is such a gaping wound in the general female psyche, and you’ve begun to fill it with all sorts of awesomeness and love. If we had more soul spacklers out there like you, the world would be a much happier place 🙂

        XO
        Linda

      2. BigLizzy Post author

        Linda-babe! Soooo my pleasure to follow you, mama. Your blog is amazing. And, OhMaGosh, you are so right about the gaping wound in the female psyche; that’s such an apt description. “Soul spacklers”!! LOL! I LOVE that so much. You are cracking me up. What a totally cute and funny term. How clever are you? VERY! I’m so loving our conversations and your wit and excellent writing so much. Keep it comin’, babe. XOXO

  4. marydpierce

    Great post. Don’t know why I have never thought of my own body/image talk this way. I love babies and would never talk to them the way I do myself. I have a small frame and I’m slender, but it doesn’t matter what size I am. I see only the flaws, and I find as I age the flaws seem to become more and more obvious. Thanks for writing this.

    I stumbled here from Le Clown’s blog, and I’m glad I did. By the way, you’re the second biker chick I’ve found on WordPress. I love your passion for life.

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    1. BigLizzy Post author

      Mary! Thank you so much for coming over from our darling Le Clown. Isn’t he amazing? I love your words here, honey and I love that you got a little sweet stuff from this post. I can tell you that you re the most beautiful woman ever, but you are right, if what you see are flaws, it makes not one bit of difference. I do know that our bodies pale in comparison to what is inside of us and who we really are as beings. Your body houses a huge, beautiful and ravishing spirit. I can see it all the way over here. so, know that others can see you. Others accept you. Now, it is your turn. You deserve it and all of the love in the universe, mommy. All my love and light to you, my new friend!

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  5. Madame Weebles

    Amen, sister. I saw something on Facebook (I think, anyway) that said something along the lines of, “Loving our bodies only when we think they’re perfect is like loving our kids only when they’re perfectly behaved.” That really struck me. I don’t have kids, but I still get it! And as always, thank you so much for everything you do to help women, lady.

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    1. BigLizzy Post author

      Weebles-babe!!! Thank you so much for stopping by and giving a read and your comments, honey-pie. Couldn’t agree more with you more and I love that the sentiment is getting “out there”. Acceptance means lack of resistance. The less we push against things and resist things, whether internal to us or with others, the better our lives get. The more we embrace, the more the world that is our own creation embraces us. This means, fewer problems, fewer disputes, less sorrow. Honey, thank you so much for your thoughtful comments and for sharing your truth. I just adore our on-going conversation and exploration together. I love you, sis. XOXO

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